Thursday Thoughts - Tenderness

Journal Prompt – Speak gently to yourself. Cherish the child within. We are our own worst critics. The words we say to ourselves are so impactful. If you were to go back in time and talk to your younger self face to face, would you say those words to that young face? Write a list of things you would say to your younger self, words of encouragement or affirmations. Things that you wish you were told growing up. You can use this list as affirmations to inspire you going forward if you’d like!


  1. Your body is perfect just the way it is, you’re only 9 years old! Be a kid! (This didn’t come from my parents; I was bullied in school for how I looked)
  2. Your Father had identity issues and didn’t know how to love himself, so he couldn’t give you the love you needed growing up. He wasn’t allowed to be who he truly was. You are worthy of love. (My parents divorced when I was 5 weeks old, he re-married a year later and treated me as a court-ordered obligation. I believe that he was hiding his true self from everyone including his new wife. Once I turned 18 our “relationship” fell apart, I haven’t seen him since.)
  3. Your heart is not a toy. Boys shouldn’t make bets on who wins you over first, that’s not love. You are worthy of a partner who is your best friend, true love. (The first two boys I dated in school had actually made a bet with each other to see who could “have” me first, they never liked me in reality. Neither of them “got” me.)


The affirmations I could take out of these are:

  1. I am beautiful just the way I am.
  2. I am worthy of love.
  3. I am worthy of true love and partnership.